The very lovely Kate Takes 5 started a linky called Listography just after Christmas 2010 and this was back in the days before I was blogging regularly so I never had the pleasure of getting involved but I was delighted to find out that she had recently revived it because if there is one thing I love, it is a list.
So the challenge is to create a list about the Top 5 things .... and this time is is "Life Lessons", so here we go, here are mine ..
1. Don't worry about things you can't change.
One of my other half's favourite sayings is that worrying won't change anything and he is right. He also says that worrying is like a rocking horse, it will give you something to do but won't get you anywhere. Again, he is right. So sometimes, when you are staring at the ceiling and unable to sleep, it can be easier to write down your worries and go to sleep. Being tired and worried is never going to help either! There are lots of things that will always be beyond our control (and that is difficult for a control freak like me to admit) but there really is no point worrying about them if you can't change them.
2. Spend more time with your friends and family than with your work
I love my work but I love my family more. This may sound like an obvious observation but it is amazing how sometimes work can take over and that precious family time gets shorter and shorter as I "just have to check an email on the phone" or "just take a call". I am always reminded of my Nan saying "on your gravestone it will say "beloved daughter and mother" ...... it is not likely to say "great worker".
3. Laughter fixes most things
I love laughing. I love laughing till I cry (or need the toilet)
Laughter is the best medicine, it can make you feel better, it can diffuse the most tense of situations and it creates less lines on your face than frowning. Who would want to be grumpy?
4. Girls can be mean
I spent alot of my childhood trying to be something to pretty much every friend I ever made but in the end, you have to accept you simply haven't got the time or inclination to pacifiy everyone, especially those who don't deserve it. Girls can be mean and it takes a while to understand that you just need to find the strength inside yourself to make your choices about your real friends. It is empowering when you do.
5. People will remember you
My final lesson is given entirely to the legend that is Coco Chanel:
“Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.”
What would your life lessons be?