Last year I started a Love Is ..... series of posts with contributions from some amazing bloggers. Love means something different to everyone and to start us this year, is the beautiful Kelly Innes.
Things have been difficult for me in the past few weeks. I have been low, frustrated by my relationship with DH, which felt like it was at an impasse. I have cried and cried and wondered and hypothesised and felt very alone. I read a post at Mummy From the Heart with suggestions and thoughts on what makes a good marriage. It made me feel like everyone else was getting it right and I was not.
So I did what you should always do in these situations and I called one of my best buddies. And she did what friends should always do in these situations: she listened. She didn’t judge, or come rushing to my defence. She heard me. Which gave me an opportunity to listen to me too.
And I realised, when I listened to my thoughts articulated, that I was being rather selfish. Yes, DH sometimes gets trapped in his own world, has conversations in his head with me so often that he forgets to actually have them out loud, but that is the way he has always been. He is still the man that I fell in love with.
And so I watched him. And I saw him working so hard, saw him juggling the manifold responsibilities of supporting a family and a hefty workload and adoring his daughters. His heart, his love, is in all the little things he does that makes our family function. I have always admired that in him.
Then I listened to him: to the intricacies of the work that is keeping him up until midnight and waking him at 5am. I listened to the problems, the car issues, the falling trees, the decisions he is currently weighing up.
And I saw the man I fell in love with doing all these things for me. And not complaining at all.
And I fell in love with him once more.
Kelly is the face behind the vintage silhouette at Domestic Goddesque, is part of The Motherhood, and is a Contributing Editor at BritMums. She has recently moved beyond the fringes of Greater London to the Kent countryside (though still within eyeline of the M25) and has added a few chickens to the family menagerie. Her day is spent chauffeuring children, learning how to cook with an Aga and encouraging the hens to lay eggs and trying not confuse the three. She is mother to two absurdly photogenic girls, wife to her beloved DH and master to the Wonder Hound. She drinks a lot of coffee and spends time on social media to make up for the fact that she doesn’t get out much. You can find Domestic Goddesque on Twitter,Facebook, Google +, Pinterest and Instagram. Do stop by and say hello!