Tweet

If you could choose to influence the gender of your unborn baby, would you?

I read a blog post this week about gender swaying on The Busy Mummy Diaries and I am delighted that she is pregnant with her much wanted baby daughter. I know that there has been a lot of press about gender selection and to my knowledge, PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) is the only high tech method which can guarantee the gender of your choice with almost 100% accuracy, this is because embryos are tested for gender before being implanted in the mother's womb but what if you could influence it yourself?

Carly from The Busy Mummy Diaries used a "baby girl diet" and The Shettles Theory. Shettles theorised that the two different types of sperm, X-chromosome-bearing sperm and Y-chromosome-bearing sperm, had different properties. 

Y-Bearing Sperm (Male-Producing) Smaller, round-headed Faster More fragile, shorter-lived

X-Bearing Sperm (Female-Producing) Larger, oval-headed Slower More resilient, longer-lived

Shettles hoped that these properties could be used to choose a baby's sex.

• Under ideal conditions, the Y-sperm's faster speed should prevail, winning the race to the egg and conceiving a boy.
• Under less than ideal conditions, fewer of the fragile Y-sperm will survive. The X-sperm's resiliance and staying power should win the day, conceiving a girl.

I am totally conflicted about my thoughts on this whole subject. I can understand that some families would like to choose the sex of their baby for practical reasons, for personal reasons, even for health reasons but are we not defying nature by doing so?

I have two beautiful daughters and I haven't ruled out having a third but would I really want to choose? What if after doing everything you were advised to do, it didn't work, would you be disappointed? Would that child forever be the "wrong one"?

I am an old fashioned kind of girl, I never wanted to find out the sex of our baby at the hospital scan, as I genuinely believe conception and child birth is one of life's remaining miracles. Who am I to intervene. Would you?

Note: Shettles Method reference taken from In Gender, where you can find more methods and information on this subject.

Tweet

I have always blogged about our Water Babies journey but a few weeks ago, our journey took a little detour. Our fabulous teacher, Kate, left to start her maternity leave. Kate was an amazing teacher and little fish adored her, so much so that Kate frequently used her as the "demonstration" baby for the next technique. So Nanny was extremely apprehensive ( I think she is more of a creature of habit than the little one) so when Lynsey took over the lessons, I had to convince my mum to give her the benefit of the doubt. It wasnt necessary of course, Lynsey is a very natural teacher and Nanny was raving about her after they got home.

We have already signed up for the next course but due to Lynsey only covering the remainder of the last set due to Kate's departure, it is highly likely that we will have another new teacher for the new course. *insert Mum's renewed apprehension here*  

Babies and children all react differently to change but my girls have always been creatures of habit! So we will wait will some excitement and trepidation as to who will be taking the new class but if our baby swimming experience so far has been anything to go by, then a change in the tides (or the teacher) is just another opportunity to meet one of the fantastic Water Babies team!

Tweet

You may remember a little while ago, we changed our Twitter and Facebook avatar to a Star. This was in memory of a little girl called Matilda Mae who was found sleeping earlier this year. I never knew Matilda Mae but her mum Jenny, is a fellow blogger, and is both loved and respected in the blogging community.

In the weeks and months since Jenny found Matilda sleeping, Jenny and her family have been working closely with FSID who today have changed their name to The Lullaby Trust. The charity’s new logo, website and materials were unveiled today after a year-long rebranding exercise. The changes are part of its strategy to halve the number of deaths from sudden infant death syndrome by 2020. About 300 babies in the UK die suddenly each year.

‘The Lullaby Trust’ communicates warmth, trust and compassion. It is a simple name which is easy to remember and illustrates their commitment to promoting safer sleep for babies to every family.

The Lilypad family have no comprehension of what Jenny and her family have gone through but we do think that FSID changing the name to The Lullaby Trust is a positive move for FSID. All parents sing a favourite lullaby for their little ones and mine has to be Hush Little Baby. We often tailor it to Mummy (not Daddy) or Big Sister likes to try and find other options for baby but the traditional is always my favourite. 

Hush, little baby, don't say a word,
Daddy's gonna buy you a mockingbird.

And if that mockingbird won't sing,
Daddy's gonna buy you a diamond ring.

And if that diamond ring turns brass,
Daddy's gonna buy you a looking glass.

And if that looking glass gets broke,
Daddy's gonna buy you a billy goat,

And if that billy goat don't pull,
Daddy's gonna buy you a cart and bull.

And if that cart and bull turn over,
Daddy's gonna buy you a dog named Rover.

And if that dog named Rover won't bark,
Daddy's gonna buy you a horse and cart.

And if that horse and cart fall down,
You'll still be the sweetest baby in town.

Tweet

The Lilypad blog is usually a fun, engaging and generally "fluffy" place but sometimes important issues are shared. With most of our readers having families, family law is important to us all. We are therefore delighted to share the following  information from Irwin Mitchell.

If you’re dealing with a family-related legal issue, it’s important to keep apprised of the recent changes that have been made in family law. Under the new Legal Aid, Sentencing and Punishment of Offenders (LASPO) Bill, public aid has been cut for many family-related legal issues. Find out what you need to know about these recent changes in the following article:

1)    The LASPO bill does not affect those currently receiving aid.

The new LASPO bill took effect on April 1 of this year. As such, if you applied for (and were granted) legal aid by the March 31 deadline, you will not be immediately affected by the new bill. However, it is important to be aware that if your current aid runs out or your means change, you may be assessed under the new rules (see below) and end up having to pay out-of-pocket for legal fees. 

2)    New applicants may have to take a means test to determine eligibility.

As for the rest of us, the new LASPO bill promises to drastically change the legal aid system forever. Under the new bill, only those with a household income of £32,000 or less will be eligible to receive public aid in family law cases such as divorce proceedings and child custody battles. Those who earn between £14,000 and £32,000 will be asked to take a means test to determine eligibility.

3)    Legal aid for divorce cases that involve domestic abuse will remain in-tact.

Fortunately, legal aid will continue to be made available to victims of domestic abuse or violence who are seeking a separation or divorce. However, they will need to prove evidence of domestic violence in order to receive aidhich will inevitably mean that many will be left without protection. Police reports or a letter from a domestic violence organisation or GP may be considered in determining eligibility. Others who may continue to be eligible to receive aid include those who are already in mediation or are applying for an injunction. 

4)    Disability, benefit, and welfare entitlement are affected by LASPO.

As well as divorce and custody-related cases, changes to disability, benefit, and welfare entitlement have been made under the new LASPO bill. Instead of keeping with the rate of inflation, welfare benefits will rise by only 1% per year. Beginning April 15, there will also be a cap placed on welfare benefits, and disability living allowance will be replaced with the personal independence payment (PIP). 

5)    Legal aid for medical negligence cases will be limited.

Under the new LASPO bill, legal aid for medical negligence cases will suffer major cuts. Only families with children who have suffered neurological damage during their mother’s pregnancy, the birthing process, or in the first eight weeks of life will be eligible to receive aid. This paints a bleak future for a variety of other claimants, including those who have suffered from misdiagnoses and botched operations; they will likely have to turn to “no win no fee” agreements to pursue claims.