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The Little Lilypad is a lifestyle blog mostly written by a mum to two beautiful, cheeky and entertaining daughters. It is sometimes written by the Man on the Pad or by one of our baby bloggers. Occasionally we accept guest posts too. There is frequently talk of shoes and clothing (we love fashion and savvy shopping), chocolate (who doesn't love chocolate) education and swimming (we love this too). It is hopefully helpful, sometimes funny and always honest.

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Don't judge me on my parenting ....

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Please don't judge me on my parenting. Not today. 

We were having dinner with some friends and friends of theirs joined us, as the meals were served, I got out my phone and put it in front of the toddler to distract her while she ate. I held my breath slightly waiting for the disproving looks from everyone round the table to tell me silently that I should be teaching my child to eat properly without the need for distraction only to feel relived when another Mum looked over and simply said "I am so glad we are not the only ones that do that".

It made me realise that people do make judgements every single day and we expect our parenting to be critised by anyone who has ever considered having a child, those that don't, let alone those who have been there and got the t-shirt. Somedays I feel like saying .....

Please don't judge me today for letting my child have chocolate, you don't know that she has been unwell and hasn't eaten much. I am just glad that she is eating something.

Please don't judge me today for using a Disney Princess umbrella on the school run today, honestly .... I have no clue where my umbrella is (it wasn't on today's priority list) and anyway the little one was delighted to be huddled up together under the pink brolly.

Please don't judge me today for wearing a glittery clip in my hair ..... look at the fishtail plait in my oldest daughters hair or the miracle of two small pigtails in the toddlers hair .... they look super cute. Just don't look at me.

Please don't judge me today for telling my daughter to play with her friends at soft play. I want to help her develop her social skills (and I would really like to drink a cup of hot chocolate while it is still hot). (oh and did I mention that I was at soft play, I deserve a wine!).

Please don't judge me today for staying with my toddler until she falls asleep, she has asthma and controlled crying is not an option. (I also worked hard today and I sometimes just want to grab those extra minutes with her).


So please don't judge me today. I am doing the best job I can.

Do you feel judged today?



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  1. I can only cheer, say YES, and agree. People need to stop judging and be kinder or just mind their own business!! Popped over from Ranty Friday!

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  2. Oh I am with you on this. We shouldnt judge anybody until we have all the facts. It is hard though because we do don't we? I wouldnt judge you on giving a child your phone to play with though, it is generally my kids telling me to put mine down!

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  3. I must admit I am a bugger for judging people - and myself, but at the same time it's a massive bugbear when people do it to me!

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  4. Oooh it's hard though isn't it? We're all guilty of it bit. I did judge a little bit the dad who was letting his one year old 'drink' beer from his pint glass in the pub this evening - she kept dipping her hands in and licking it off!

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  5. Hands up you've made me feel bad. I just find it hard to walk past the woman who is SCREAMING at her child every day about how she's not the daughter she wanted, and all manner of nasty things. I don't know what goes on before or after so you've made me realise that I need to try harder NOT to judge her. I'm sorry. And none of us are perfect - I am far from it. But yeh get me going a whole 2 train journeys with no technology (well the kids not me, hell no!)

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  6. Aww that is so sweet and yes it is very common to judge, I have even found myself doing it and having to stop myself. It's a very tricky one to stay clear of. YOu be you, I am sure you are doing a marvellous job

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  7. So spot on! Sadly so many people, including amazingly other mothers, do still seem to spend so much of their time judging other people and it drives me mad. Pay attention to your own chid rather than wasting time fretting about how others bring up theirs!

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  8. Lovely post and so true.... no one knows cept you whats really going on

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  9. I wouldn't judge you for those things! Anyway I bet you look cute with sparkles in your hair! x x

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  10. Parents should be supportive - no one is perfect and every parent should know this. I have once been told that I hugged my son too much and showed him too much love and affection! You can never show children too much love in my book.

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  11. Oh yes, parent judging should be banned - plus all those things sound perfectly good to me!

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