As it was Mothers Day yesterday, I sat here wondering what makes a good mum? In the same way that fathering a child doesnt make you a "Daddy", what makes a mum good?

• Is it being cool or controlling?
• Is it being happy or harsh?
• Is it working to provide or staying at home?

Growing up, I would tell anyone that listened that my parents were quite strict, I wasnt allowed to "hang out", I had chores to do and my homework was checked daily! I wasnt rewarded everytime I did anything well or got 10/10 on my spellings but I knew my parents were proud of me when I did.

So was my mum "good", if you had asked me at 14, you may have a different answer but ask me now as a thirty something (ahem) mum to two girls, absolutely, she was brilliant and still is.

She worked part time, so although she was there for my brother and I, she taught us a good work ethic too. She was kind and loving, firm but fair. We may not have had designer clothes but they went out of style, family isnt about a fashion statement.

I love my girls and only hope that I can emulate the same kind of upbringing for my daughters, that my mum did for me. Its not about being their best friend but wanting to be the best mum I can be.