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Love Is ....... about falling in love over and over again

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Last year I started a Love Is ..... series of posts with contributions from some amazing bloggers. Love means something different to everyone and to start us this year, is the beautiful Kelly Innes.

Things have been difficult for me in the past few weeks. I have been low, frustrated by my relationship with DH, which felt like it was at an impasse. I have cried and cried and wondered and hypothesised and felt very alone. I read a post at Mummy From the Heart with suggestions and thoughts on what makes a good marriage. It made me feel like everyone else was getting it right and I was not.

So I did what you should always do in these situations and I called one of my best buddies. And she did what friends should always do in these situations: she listened. She didn’t judge, or come rushing to my defence. She heard me. Which gave me an opportunity to listen to me too.

And I realised, when I listened to my thoughts articulated, that I was being rather selfish. Yes, DH sometimes gets trapped in his own world, has conversations in his head with me so often that he forgets to actually have them out loud, but that is the way he has always been. He is still the man that I fell in love with. 

And so I watched him. And I saw him working so hard, saw him juggling the manifold responsibilities of supporting a family and a hefty workload and adoring his daughters. His heart, his love, is in all the little things he does that makes our family function. I have always admired that in him.

Then I listened to him: to the intricacies of the work that is keeping him up until midnight and waking him at 5am. I listened to the problems, the car issues, the falling trees, the decisions he is currently weighing up. 

And I saw the man I fell in love with doing all these things for me. And not complaining at all.

And I fell in love with him once more. 

 

Kelly Innes Kelly is the face behind the vintage silhouette at Domestic Goddesque, is part of The Motherhood, and is a Contributing Editor at BritMums. She has recently moved beyond the fringes of Greater London to the Kent countryside (though still within eyeline of the M25) and has added a few chickens to the family menagerie. Her day is spent chauffeuring children, learning how to cook with an Aga and encouraging the hens to lay eggs and trying not confuse the three. She is mother to two absurdly photogenic girls, wife to her beloved DH and master to the Wonder Hound. She drinks a lot of coffee and spends time on social media to make up for the fact that she doesn’t get out much. You can find Domestic Goddesque on Twitter,Facebook, Google +, Pinterest and Instagram. Do stop by and say hello!

 

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  1. Brilliant post Kelly - it's actually really made me think as I can completely relate. Thanks for sharing x x

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  2. I love this! Absolutely love it.

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  3. Great post Kelly and one that can easily be applied to me and mine.

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  4. Sending huge hugs Kelly. And so glad you got to take a step back and see the bigger picture. I think relationships so often fail because we can't see beyond our own viewpoint. We don't get to think about what the other person is going through.

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  5. This is exactly what I have to do when I feel like you have. My other half is very similar to yours in that respect and it's not until I stop and look that I truly notice and appreciate it.

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  6. Sometimes all it takes is to step back and look at what we have and realise that just maybe it isn't all bad

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  7. How beautiful! I hope that it will happen to me too...

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  8. What a lovely post Kelly, I do often have to remind myself that my husband doesn't always show love in the ways I do but when I stop and look it is always there, in his own way. So glad you're feeling happier.

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  9. Oh my, what a lovely post Kelly!!

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  10. What a beautiful post and I am so glad that you are feeling happier.

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  11. When I feel a little low regarding our marriage I often think of the reason I fell in Love with him and also the time we split, the memory of that time makes me realise he is my other half, the half I need to function properly x I'm glad you have your friends and are feeling better xxx

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  12. Ahh Kelly, so sorry anything I had written woudl make you feel sad but glad it spurred you to chat to Liz and also dh. Falling in love all over again is almost worth a bit of heartache I've found in the past. No marriage is perfect we all go through stages. Mich x

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  13. Thanks so much for having me :)

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  14. This was so lovely to read and has given me food for thought. xx

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  15. Oh Kelly, that is lovely, it is so easy to swept up in life and sometimes we need to take a step back and actually see what is happening around us. Glad you are feeling happier now x

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